If someone has the desire to be in an intimate relationship, they may find it is merely a matter of time before they meet the right person. Alternatively, they might realize that they are only able to get up to now.
The weeks will then pass this area of their life won’t change, causing them to experience plenty of frustration. There is even the chance that a number of years will pass this area of their life still won’t change.
It can then be as if they’re playing their part, yet the world is not meeting them half way.
If, after experiencing life in this manner for quite some time, they were to feel like a victim, it wouldn’t be a surprise.
Fully On Board
They’ll be clear about what they need to experience and they’ll have taken the steps to make this happen, just for this area of their life to have remained the same. It will have been as if they picked a destination and followed the right directions to get there, however, they ended up somewhere else entirely.
Experiencing life this manner could cause them to feel that someone, or something, is holding them back. Seeing couples could be quite tough for them, as it will remind them of exactly what they have not been able to experience.
At the exact same time, an individual may have been in a number of relationships but every time they may have been with someone who was unavailable. So, though they were with them, they would not have been able to emotionally connect to them.
They may find it hard to choose which of both of these experiences is more frustrating, or they might discover that being with someone who is unavailable is worse.
If one has been with a variety of people who were not able to commit, they might believe that other men and women are the ones who need to change, not them. Until they change and are ready to talk about their heart, their life will not change.
Sooner or later, an individual could put this area of their life to one side and focus on other areas of their life. This area of their life is then going to be out of the control, and they will just have to wait until it changes.
The thing is, however, simply because one says that they would like to have a connection and they take certain actions to make this happen, it doesn’t mean that each part of them is on board with this desire. Nevertheless, if they’re only aware of what’s taking place in their mind, what they do, and what they say to other people, they are not going to realise this.
What this illustrates is that what is taking place in their unconscious mind has far more control over their lifetime than what is occurring in their conscious mind. When these components work together, magic can occur; when they don’t, it may result in lots of pain and suffering.
The problem is that when one is unaware of the impact that this part of these is having on their life, it may be normal for them to feel helpless. Typically, what is happening’out there’ will be seen as the problem.
The Main Need
This part of them will only let them experience what feels secure; therefore, if they are unable to experience intimacy, it is likely to show that this is perceived as something that is a threat to their very survival. Now, it may be difficult for their conscious mind to understand how closeness could put their life in danger.
The thing about this part of ones being is it can forget that it’s forgotten about particular things. So, though this portion of them might completely dismiss this as having no basis in fact, it doesn’t mean that this is true.
If one was to put what is occurring in their conscious mind to one side and to reflect on what took place during their first years, they may gain a certain amount of insight into their present challenge. They may find that this was a time when their borders weren’t respected.
At this era, this could have been a lot for them to manage, and getting close to other people would then have been associated as something that was not safe.
As the years passed, ones conscious mind (head) would have slowly forget about what happened but their unconscious mind (body) would have remembered. This part of them has no sense of time, so it will not be as though this is the way their life has been; it will be as though it is how their lifestyle is.